Five books that are the same or better than any course you can take
Few people realize how much knowledge you can gain solely from books. These books are an excellent resource for couples who want to learn How to have a great relationship and how to communicate and connect. If you want to improve your relationship, read these five great books that are the same or better than any course you can take.
Length: 321 pages
Rating on Goodreads: 4.21
Gottman outlines the seven principles that all marriages need to be successful in this book. These principles are trust, communication, conflict resolution, commitment, friendship, kindness, and understanding. This book is an excellent resource for couples who want to improve their relationship and build a stronger foundation.
“At the heart of the Seven Principles approach is the simple truth that happy marriages are based on a deep friendship.”
“Betrayal is, fundamentally, any act or life choice that doesn’t prioritize the commitment and put the partner “before all others.”
Length: 208 pages
Rating on Goodreads: 4.26
Chapman outlines the five love languages that all people need to feel loved and connected in a relationship in this book. These love languages are physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, and gifts. This book is an excellent resource for couples who want to learn how to express their love for each other in a way that will be truly meaningful.
“Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving.”
“Love doesn’t keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn’t bring up past failures.”
Length: 336 pages
Rating on Goodreads: 4.05
In this book, Gottman outlines a three-step process that can help couples improve their relationship. These steps are: increasing positive interactions, repairing negative interactions, and creating shared meaning. This book is an excellent resource for couples who want to learn how to communicate and connect effectively.
“The Relationship Cure is another in John Gottman’s superb series of books on improving intimate relationships. What distinguishes Gottman’s writing from other self-help books is based on research findings from his extensive studies. When he says his five steps will help you build better connections with the people you care about, you know they have been demonstrated to work.”E. Mavis Hetherington, Ph.D., professor of psychology, University of Virginia
“The Relationship Cure is profound and practical, based on decades of research and clinical experience. The rich array of self-exploration exercises and guidelines offers a life-changing program for creating more rewarding emotional connections with friends, colleagues, and life partners.”Shirley P. Glass, ABPP, author of Treating the Trauma of Infidelity
Length: 215 pages
Rating on Goodreads: 4.13
Mellody outlines the five essential ingredients necessary for a healthy and intimate relationship in this book. These ingredients are safety, boundaries, self-esteem, trust, and commitment. This book is an excellent resource for couples who want to create a more intimate and connected relationship.
“A splendid example of her pioneering and cutting edge work…This book can change your life.”John Bradshaw, author of the #1 New York Times bestsellers Homecoming and Creating Love
“With vast experience and insight, Pia Mellody continues to bring to her reader an empowering experience.”Claudia Black, Ph.D. author of It Will Never Happen To Me
“…a wonderful book…. handy to those who are starting recovery to see the purpose of the language of boundaries.”Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., CAS, author of Out of the Shadows and Don’t Call It Love
“[Mellody] details how to erect healthy…boundaries that will foster rather than hamper intimacy and boost self-esteem.Publishers Weekly
“The Art of Possibility: Transforming Professional and Personal Life” by Rosamund Zander and Benjamin Zander
Length: 240 pages
Rating on Goodreads: 3.95
It is an excellent book for couples who want to improve their relationship by learning to see the possibilities in every situation. This book offers readers a new way of thinking about relationships and provides practical tools for making change happen.
“As applicable in the workplace as in an intimate relationship.“The Boston Globe
“In the presence of either Zander, one’s spirit soars. Now they reveal their secrets in a deeply satisfying book. I guarantee you’ll be inspired.”Gail Sheehy
“The passionate energy permeating The Art of Possibility is a true force for every reader for self-development and life fulfillment.”Klaus Schwab, founder, and president, World Economic Forum
If you are interested in learning more about how to have a great relationship, these five books are a great place to start. Each of these books offers valuable insight into what it takes to create and maintain a healthy and happy relationship. So, if you are ready to improve your relationship, pick up a copy of one (or all!) of these great books and get started today!