Diana Camila Avila and Jordie Vena are the couple behind the viral TikTok account Alpha Familia. This couple uses the fact that they are STEP SIBLINGS to entice viewers in a really messed up way, but that’s only the beginning. @alphafamilia Love is love ❤️ #cutkings eatadick #alphabama #fyp #alpha #foryoupage #foryou #stepsister #stepbro #step ♬ Eat a Dick – Cut Kings It’s safe to say that if you have had the misfortune to stumble across one of their videos on your feed, you know there is much more to unpack than just the fact that they’re stepsiblings. But they weren’t always a monstrosity of a couple! Their shared TikTok account appears to have originally belonged to Avila. Old videos feature only her modeling outfits. @alphafamilia Feelin Fall 🍁 #fyp #foryoupage #foryou #halloweekend ♬ Take Your Man – Mahogany LOX She looks like a normal girl wanting to be TikTok famous. Also side note- apparently she’s a dentist! Why couldn’t we see more teeth videos?! Alas, Frankenstein had to create her monster. Avila slowly begins integrating her boyfriend more regularly in videos. @alphafamilia McDonalds is gross #greenscreen #fyp #foryou #foryoupage ♬ ratatata.. – Mukhtar Their videos are still kind of weird, but not too out of ordinary for TikTok, and nowhere near what they evolved to. Avila just looks hungry for TikTok fame, while Vena appears to be a passive, yet supportive, boyfriend. @alphafamilia Who did it better?? #fyp #foryou #foryoupage ♬ original sound – I miss my grandma Look how normal they seem here! Just a girl and her boyfriend doing silly TikToks together. Ugh if only they could have stayed like this! But unfortunately they decided to make things officially weird, to say the least by adopting personas. At least we hope they are personas. Vena takes on a macho male personality, “Alpha.” Cue the cringing. @alphafamilia You better watch out ⚠️ #fyp #foryou #foryoupage #tiktok #viral #positivevibes ♬ Swish Mike Stud – bree @alphafamilia Catch the link at the end to get free v-bucks #fyp #foryoupage #foryou #itsaremix #withmyfamily #xyzbca #tiktok #viral #alpha #fighting #boxing ♬ LEAD THE RACE (UNDEFEATED) – Comethazine Nobody knows WHY they did this. Perhaps it was because Vena felt like he was taking a backseat in prior videos. Maybe he really is a macho alpha type in real life and wanted to showcase it. Regardless of the reasoning, it is annoying, weird, uncomfortable. And worst of all, has a lot of sexist and misogynistic undertones, which we are not about in 2020. In many of their videos, Vena and Avila have a clear shtick, which relies heavily on gender stereotypes. Vena’s persona plays into the aggressive male stereotype. He is often seen yelling, punching the air, angering easily and is controlling and possessive over Avila. Avila on the other hand, plays into the cute girl trope, using a very obnoxious baby voice- we will get into this momentarily. Avila’s persona doesn’t like her boyfriend looking at other girls, wants attention all the time, and acts dumb. All of this could potentially be humorous if they said it was a joke, but they don’t. Viewers are left to believe that this is their actual dynamics and it’s weird. For young impressionable viewers, this could potentially be very unhealthy to be normalizing. This Took A Turn… Then they started introducing the fact that they are step siblings into the mix. @alphafamilia Always pranking my step brother #fyp #foryou #foryoupage #dojacat #prank #prankwars #promportrait #promlook ♬ Like That – Doja Cat Why? Why was that necessary?? Clearly the Alpha persona was not bringing in enough followers so they had to throw something more wacky into the mix. OKAY. They do claim that they are step siblings in real life, so we don’t want to cast judgement. But something about exploiting the fact that they are step siblings as click bait seems fishy. "alpha familia" sometimes i have trouble wondering how white people managed to colonize 90% of the world https://t.co/YgYtMTxkiS — isabella (@stabbedthesun) September 18, 2020 Then There’s The Baby Talk Alpha Familia has also been unofficially dubbed “the baby talk” couple. Avila’s persona is supposed to be the cute little girl, so she obviously needs to have a cute voice to go with it. It’s unfortunate that this might be the worst voice in human existence. @alphafamilia let’s have a moment of silence for those dying for attention @jordievena #fyp #foryou #foryoupage #alpha #alphabama #xyzbca #alabama #step #tiktok ♬ original sound – Alpha @alphafamilia When the Alpha gets angry watch out 🐺🐺 #alphabama #alpha #ItStartsOnTikTok #NailStyle #fyp #foryou #foryoupage #tiktok ♬ original sound – Alpha IS IT POSSIBLE TO MUTE A VIDEO HOW CAN I MUTE VIDEOS WITH ALPHAFAMILIA IN IT I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE — elle .o҉ʼ 📚📝 busy ! (@daijoburat) September 14, 2020 Put all of this together and you somehow have the winning recipe for a viral TikTok account. But an OBNOXIOUS one. It’s unclear how many of their followers are actually fans. idk which of their faces i want to step on more… https://t.co/VYUMAyI3WU — Jujuu | BLM | 🏳️ (@j_elgml) September 16, 2020 the alphafamilia tiktok “couple” that are step siblings? make me wanna put a fork in 1 ear & pull it out the other. my fight or flight is activated everytime i hear the girls baby voice or anytime the dude does/says anything. someone pls lock them in a bunker & throw away the key — bitch kitty (@shaarkkbait) September 14, 2020 My brain cells after watching alpha familia on tic tok pic.twitter.com/tfOfhJJcBc — Nathan T (@NathanT93824981) September 16, 2020 They have been reviewed by several YouTubers for being the weirdest and cringiest couple of TikTok. [embedded content] [embedded content] Basically it just seems like everyone wants them to stop. [embedded content] Everyone seems to have a suspicion that this can’t be real. This can not actually be how the couple acts. Maybe their appeal is that they are everyone’s favorite couple we love to hate. oh god i remembered that alphafamilia tiktok again and i wanna reset my memory. — 𝐣𝐢𝐡𝐚𝐧. (@pinkcameIIia) September 15, 2020 The worst part about all of this is that people are ACTUALLY watching them, regardless of why. The couple is clearing doing something right since they have over 400K followers on TikTok. But, do they do think people are actually enjoying their content? Or are they just parodying couples on TikTok to show people how obnoxious they are?? NOW we are onto something! Regardless, they seem to be acting as a consensual punching bag on the internet, reminding us to go outside and never scroll through TikTok again. Let us know if you think this couple is seriously like this!
Shane Burcaw and Hannah Aylward, the interabled couple of the YouTube channel Squirmy and Grubs have been the target of offensive comments on their recent wedding video. The couple has faced ignorance and discrimination about their relationship in the past, but this time it went too far. View this post on Instagram If the past two years of having a YouTube channel have taught me anything, it’s that you’re never going to be able to educate everyone. No matter what you do, some people will just never come around. Worrying about these people’s opinions is a waste of time, and as time has gone on, it’s become so much easier to genuinely have no internal reaction to comments like these. A few years ago, reading words like these was painful. For a while, I held onto the idea that once Shane and I were married, all the people doubting our relationship would realize it was real. Now, of course, I’m not that naive. Although it’s taken time, I’m able to completely dismiss people like this. Shane and I continue to make content and share our story with the hopes of showing as many people as we can that disabled people are worthy partners. Comments like these only encourage us to continue! We’re so grateful for all of the people that our story has managed to reach in a positive way. A post shared by Hannah Burcaw (@hannahayl) on Sep 11, 2020 at 3:41pm PDT Channel ‘Squirmy and Grubs,’ better known as Shane Burcaw and Hannah Aylward have been dating and showcasing their interabled (a relationship where one person is disabled and the other is not) relationship on YouTube for a little over two years now. Shane has Spinal Muscular Atrophy, aka SMA, a rare disease that causes the muscles to deteriorate, while Hannah is able bodied. Their channel quickly reached half a million subscribers as they educated others on disabled living and showed the daily life of an interabled couple. Shane is an active voice in the disabled community. Originally starting a blog poking fun at his disability, he has since started a nonprofit organization that speaks to schools and provides equipment for those with muscular dystrophy. He has also written a memoir and been the center of a short documentary produced by Rainn Wilson. The couple originally met because Hannah saw the Rain Wilson documentary and decided to email Shane. The two quickly developed a virtual relationship before even meeting in person! They have been dating for the past four years and finally got married this month. Hurtful Comments [embedded content] Shane and Hannah got married in a beautiful backyard ceremony on September 4th. They wrote on their social media channels that while it was not the wedding they expected, the day was perfect and filled with happiness. They both beam in photos and have said they are happy that they have married their best friend and love of their life. While many fans were happy to see the couple finally getting hitched, SQUIRMY AND GRUBS GOT MARRIED THIS IS THE ONE REDEEMING THING ABOUT 2020 — Jax 💍⚓🔥 big boy man (@g4tisss) September 6, 2020 #SquirmyAndGrubs I'm so 😁 4 Y'all!!! Now u just gonna have to share the baby bellies to come & we wanna see babies!!! — Elect A Clown 🤡 Expect A Circus 🎪 (@AimeeSutton0922) September 6, 2020 Others were less thrilled. A week after they posted their wedding content on social media, hurtful and ignorant comments began flooding their pages. Some of the negative comments were screenshot by Hannah herself. They read: “Is he rich or something?” “This is some kind of joke.” “I’m saying this without any apologies. I’m pretty sure this woman married him because if money and not for love. Some of us women will do anything and everything for money, even if it means putting up a front, pretending, just to get what they want. Not no true love.” Hannah took to Instagram to respond. She posted a happy newlywed photo of her and Shane with screenshots of some of the mean comments. In her caption she details that a few years ago, these comments would have hurt her, but today they do not. She continues to say, “for a while, I held onto the idea that once Shane and I were married, all the people doubting our relationship would realize it was real. Now, of course, I’m not that naive. Although it’s taken time, I’m able to completely dismiss people like this. Shane and I continue to make content and share our story with the hopes of showing as many people as we can that disabled people are worthy partners.” Hannah’s caption emphasizes the fact that so many people still invalidate the lives of those with disabilities so much that they do not believe they are capable of having a “normal” relationship. The negative comments on their wedding posts about the inauthenticity of Hannah’s choice to marry Shane are completely ignorant to the fact that people with disabilities are people too and worthy of love. The comments show a very ugly side of people who think that because of Shane’s SMA, he is unworthy of being loved or having a “stereotypically pretty” able bodied person like Hannah as his wife. The couple also did what they do best and took to YouTube to address the controversy surrounding their wedding. [embedded content] They spoke in depth about the systemic inequality disabled people face when looking to get legally married. The couple talk about their decision to get legally married despite the financial implications they might face down the road because of the little options our government gives to those with disabilities. and that’s on Squirmy and Grubs https://t.co/vxw8OZ6tRu — Ԁѧяяѧһ (@MonaeePatrice) September 13, 2020 At the end of the video, Hannah does address that their decision to get legally married was also slightly influenced by the fact that they were worried about the hate they might receive if viewers found out they were not actually legally married. Even though they love each other, and were married in their own eyes, they didn’t want to give more reasons for people to devalue their marriage. In their response video Shane says, “…and I know the reaction to that from all of you will be, ‘oh just ignore them, they’re dumb,’ but when you’re email is filled every day with dozens of messages from mean people telling us that Hannah is only after my money, or that she can never love someone as disabled as me, and you have to go through and delete them so that you can find your real emails- you’re going to understand why we don’t want to add fuel to the fire.” Shane and Hannah have always educated people on what it is like to be an interabled couple, and their marriage was no different. It is disheartening to see that despite so much effort on their part to educate others, there are still some that are ignorant and ableist. Any couple knows that invalidation from the outside can cause strain on a relationship, but Hannah and Shane remain strong as ever. Their response video and Hannah’s Instagram post show their resilience towards the haters, proving to those that “disabled people are worthy partners.” We are wishing congratulations to the newlywed couple and we can only hope their future together is bright.